By using your heart as your compass, you can see more clearly which direction to go to stop self-defeating behavior. If you take just one mental or emotional habit that really bothers or drains you and apply heart intelligence to it, you’ll see a noticeable difference in your life.
Doc Childre and Howard Martin, The HeartMath Solution
February is my favorite month.. Why?
Because it is the month of the heart.. not just because of Valentine’s Day but because it is my birthday.
I always have loved my birthday.. One day per year, I can just have “my day”.. which means creating the day the way I want it.
I often end up giving things to people.. I like to share!!
5 years ago I began a process of self-inquiry regarding the heart. In 2010, when I got diagnosed with Epstein Barr and Lyme Disease, I wondered why despite my very healthy lifestyle, I was getting “hit” again with auto-immune diseases.
Last year, when diagnosed with breast cancer, I got to dig deeper.
If we buy into the theory that all diseases begin at the energetic level before they become physical, it wouldn’t be too farfetched to see the connection between thoughts, emotions and physical reality. Dr. Masaru Emoto made an incredible discovery years back examining the power of words and energy around water. In his ground breaking research he became curious about how frozen water crystals would configured and transformed when exposed to different words and/or music. The most beautiful crystals would form around words like love and gratitude and the most chaotic shapes would take place around words like anger and hate. In fact the water would turn black around such words.
What was amazing about this discovery is that only the words were printed on jars filled with water. Once the water would be placed into a freezer and examined under a powerful microscope, the most exquisite shapes could be seen while exposed to classical music and uplifting words.
Our body is made of 70% of water and it is not too farfetched to believe that the words that we speak outwardly and inwardly have an impact on the energy of our cells and cellular memory.
I began asking myself years back, what does it mean to have compassion for self and love. I relentlessly listened to Pema Chodron, an American born, twice married, Tibetan nun, who in my estimate specializes in teaching people how to be mindful around emotions and self-talk. I began applying the concepts of mindfulness to discover that the conversation that I had with myself at times was less than supportive. I began developing compassion after reading self-compassion from Kristen Neff, a psychologist who studied the effect of compassion on health, both physical and mental. I made it a daily practice to notice my thoughts and feelings and to the best of my ability apply a little dose of love. I am not always successful at it and I now recognize when I don’t.
Last year after my surgery something interesting happened. My heart chakra opened. I cried more tears than I ever thought I had in my body but the most interesting part of the deal began when I realized that I could not stay angry at people for too long. I would still have my bouts of exasperation but could no longer hold resentment in my body without creating a great deal of anxiety. Anxiety became my barometer for either negative self-talk or resentment towards others. It became clear to me that this mode of living was no longer viable if I wanted to stay healthy.
I began the practice of asking my heart for guidance whenever I felt anxious. I began asking the deeper wisdom of my heart to guide me in situations where fear would show up or guilt would speak too loudly. I began putting a hand on my heart when terror would keep me up at night which would calm me down.
To this day, I still make it a daily practice to “tune in” and listen to the whispers of my heart whenever I have conflict with someone, or try to make a “life affirming” decision. I make it a daily prayer to be guided through my heart’s consciousness to living my true purpose on this planet.
Tips to tuning into the wisdom of your own heart
- Slow down your breath- count 4-6 on the inhale and count 4-6 on the exhale. Repeat at least 6 rounds of this breath pattern and began relaxing your body. Your eyes can be either closed or open.
- Put a hand on your heart and feel the warmth of your own hand. Breathe into your hand and feel your heart beat. Allow your mind to calm down and focus on your connection hand to heart.
- Ask a question.. and wait to hear what your heart has to say while practicing deeper belly breaths.
- Take a piece of paper and record the words or do what is called “automatic writing”, letting your thoughts flow on paper in regards to the answer that you are looking for. Guidance from the heart is always calm, centered, kind and compassionate.
- Thank your heart for its guidance and transition to your next activity while remaining centered on your heart!
- At least once per day, acknowledge yourself for what you bring into this world, even tell yourself “I love you” the same way you would tell your partner, children, parents and family members that you love them.
Happy Valentines Day!!